I just found out I did another major faux pas. Apparently it is rude to ask people to move their cars. Didn't know that.
Today, I was floored once again at the stupidity - or selfishness - of people. When I went to drop off Ster and Conner, there was another back up. Amazingly, if you could get past the first set of doors, you had clear sailing. Unfornately, some mini-van mama suddently stopped right smack dab in front of the doors and left a big day care van blocking the way. You could tell the driver of the big van was not anticipating the lady suddenly stopping. Imagine, if you will, a wide open expanse of drop-off area. Then, a mini-van in the drop-off lane with a big van at an angle thinking they would be able to pull adjacent to the curb, and then cars in two lanes from than point back to the curb (there is a corner right there, no less). Anyway, once again cars could not move until that mama moved - and she wouldn't move until her child entered the building and the doors closed behind him. Then she started to fiddle with her sunglasses. I think she must have realized that she was creating a traffic jam - cuz she moved forward about a car length and then stopped once again. The big van pulled in parrallel to the curb, the vehicle behind it was able to turn the corner and move to a location in front of that minivan (with room for another car - me). Now it is my turn and I was so excited! Wow - I can finally drop off the boys and head to work. No such luck. Now, with my experience around the minivan mamas, I know to check what they are doing cuz you never know when they will start moving. So I looked and she wasn't moving. I started to pass her and get ready to pull in front of her - and then she just started moving forward and then started to turn into my lane. That is when she started to look. I just shook my head at her. Doesn't anyone believe in looking anymore?
Now, before you start to judge me to be a cranky woman, I'll tell you right now that I am. I am cranky. I am also perfect. NOT! I make mistakes and sometimes I'm in a hurry - but when others are involved, I try to be overly careful and overly considerate. But then I think "why should I be considerate when no one else is?"
I'm not the only one who thinks it is rude to block everyone. Another lady here has the same complaint about the same ladies over and over causing drop-off problems. This morning, her husband was with her and when he saw that a lady was blocking traffic, he made the mistake of asking her to move. Yeah, well he got yelled at. And all he did was point out that she was blocking the travel lane and asked if she could move.
I told the ladies here at work that I was gonna start writing down all the stupid things that go on at the drop-off zone. You wanna know what a co-worker said? "Why do you get upset with the drivers? What does it accomplish by yelling at them?" I was kind of taken back. I didn't yell at the lady last week other than to get her attention - and then I (nicely, I thought, at least) asked her to move her car. But, apparently, I was rude to call out to her and didn't accomplish anything but get her upset. And my co-worker's husband shouldn't have asked the lady to move, either. He didn't yell, but he shouldn't have done what he did. It doesn't do anything to upset them.
I was then kind of snotty. I told them that it was apparent that you can't expect people to have common courtesy these days - and that since common courtesy was out the door, then I no longer have to be courteous to people. Am I blocking traffic? Who cares. As long as my son gets to the doors without having to walk any further than needed, I will stop in the traffic lane and let him out. And I will wait until he gets through the doors before I move. Someone in the crosswalk? Who cares! They can wait until I'm gone. And if anyone has the nerve to ask me to pull up or move my car, I'm immediately gonna start to bite their head off.
I also told the lady that I guess instead of trying to be nice, I'll just start to yell first off instead of being nice since you don't have to be nice anymore. I don't think she realized I was kidding because then she starts arguing with me about how I must think it was okay for people who came in there to pay their bills to start to scream and yell at us. I told her that of course it was - no sense in trying to be nice anymore! Let them yell at us - who cares! No one =)
So I've learned a valuable lesson today. I've been wrong all along to think that people needed to be courteous. I'll remember that next time someone points out to me that I'm blocking them in or something like that (earlier today I would have been mortified if someone had to ask me to move - not no more!)
BTW - I'm the "Jeep Jerk" at the school since I've asked someone to move. There is also the clueless compact car that parks in the crosswalk every single day (I used to think it was rude
and illegal to park over the crosswalk, but it is only the crosswalk across the drop-off zone so that must mean it doesn't count as a crosswalk). If you can think of any other names to call people, let me know! I've got minivan mama, diesel dad, jeep jerk (that's me!), and clueless compact car. Help me with the SUV and big vans and regular cars.
(Oh, and I do know I need to have more patience. But I am a very impatient person)